CONFIDENCE BUILDING COURSE LESSON 3

Being kind to ourselves when we’re scared is usually the last thing we do. This isn’t our fault. We usually don’t believe we can be kind to ourselves when fear, doubt, and anxiety creep in. We feel we have to push on, hide it, or just find strength somehow. While we understand how to give comfort to children, almost everyone reaches a point in childhood where we aren’t comforted anymore so treating ourselves kindly when fear shows up as adults just isn’t something we’re normally taught. Often times we try to totally ignore the feeling of being scared or, we stay paralyzed by what scares us. Both of those things hurt us even more.

True confidence is being able to see past the fear. Not by ignoring it, by understanding it for what it is and still being able to move forward.

Today our focus is on being kind while holding ourselves accountable.

What does that look like exactly? When fear shows up, we are going to recognize it. Then we are going to acknowledge it. Today’s assignment will provide you with the tools to do this so you can be kind to yourself if you are scared and still go after what you want to achieve. Sound good? Let’s do it.

Assignment DO

Find ways you can be kind yet supportive of yourself when fear shows up. The goal is to discover easy to remember tools that you can use when fear is trying to stop you from moving forward. Doing this exercise will give you a shorthand that you can easily remember when fear comes up. Fill out the following below to reveal your kindness tools.

Assignment WRITE

Transformation Tip

Being kind and loving is an act of strength and courage. You are worth it.

Now repeat after me: Being kind and loving is an act of strength and courage. I am worth it!

Power Point

When I’m scared I can recognize it, move on, AND be kind to myself by:

Using my personalized cheat sheet from today’s assignment. 🚀

Bonus recommendations:

Taking a deep breath to recenter on the task at hand.
Giving myself a hug.
Using today’s transformation tip as a reminder: “Being kind and loving is an act of strength and courage. I am worth it!”
Remembering I have a lot to give and a lot to receive.